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Love in a lust world

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*** This may make you feel awkward or even make you blush – but it’s the Truth.

 Song of Solomon (Chapter 7)

HE:

1 How beautiful are your feet in sandals, O noble daughter! Your rounded thighs are like jewels,
the work of a master hand.
2 Your navel is a rounded bowl that never lacks mixed wine. Your belly is a heap of wheat,
encircled with lilies.
3 Your two breasts are like two fawns, twins of a gazelle.
4 Your neck is like an ivory tower. Your eyes are pools in Heshbon, by the gate of Bath-rabbim.
Your nose is like a tower of Lebanon, which looks toward Damascus.
5 Your head crowns you like Carmel, and your flowing locks are like purple; a king is held captive in the tresses.
6 How beautiful and pleasant you are, O loved one, with all your delights![a]
7 Your stature is like a palm tree, and your breasts are like its clusters.
8 I say I will climb the palm tree and lay hold of its fruit. Oh may your breasts be like clusters of the vine, and the scent of your breath like apples,
9 and your mouth[b] like the best wine.
She:

It goes down smoothly for my beloved, gliding over lips and teeth.
10 I am my beloved’s, and his desire is for me.

The Bride Gives Her Love

11 Come, my beloved, let us go out into the fields and lodge in the villages;
12 let us go out early to the vineyards and see whether the vines have budded, whether the grape blossoms have opened and the pomegranates are in bloom. There I will give you my love.
13 The mandrakes give forth fragrance, and beside our doors are all choice fruits, new as well as old, which I have laid up for you, O my beloved.

Ok, who after reading this wants to go grab your husband/wife and give them a big kiss?? If you’re not married it makes you desire to find someone who cherishes his wife this much. This is straight out of God’s word! These naughty little youngin’s with their metaphors. As I read this scripture I could feel the desire to be with one another so strongly – Encouraging intimacy between a groom and his bride – inspiration.

It’s b e a u t i f u l.                                     It’s h o l y.                                                           It’s p u r e.

The husband isn’t commanding his wife to be a “slave” to him but his heart and mind is full of desire for his bride.

The two became ONE.

It breaks my heart to think that innocent girls/women are being made sex slaves (sex trafficking) but our society would rather entertain a provocative, pornographic book and movie than contribute to HELP these lives (or at least not contribute to the movie/book 50 Shades of Grey – which is indeed making a woman a slave to her master).

My newsfeed has been full of justifications. Some of the comments I’ve read – “This will help my relationship because it will spark a fire in our intimacy” , “It’s not really a sin to watch this movie” or “Christian’s are so uptight about harmless movies” These are LIES – from the enemy.

Philippians 4:8

Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things.

God created sex. He wants it to be spicy, interesting, fun and PURE. When you invite such filth to come before your eyes, it’s no longer your spouse arousing you but the “thought” of another man or woman’s relations and this is known as ADULTERY. It’s in the Bible…

Matthew 5:27, 28 “You have heard that it was said, ‘Do not commit adultery.’ But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

Exodus 20:17 “you shall not covet (lust) your neighbor’s wife,”

So often it’s made to sound as if men are the only ones who struggle with lust. Yes, I feel like the enemy has a stronghold on men with the desires of flesh – literally. BUT women are NOT perfect and usually enjoy fanacizing or reading books or watching movies on other people’s relationship finding themselves -craving “that type of love” Comparing these two incidents – they are identical because they BOTH lead to destruction. They BOTH lead to a wandering mind. They BOTH lead to unfaithfulness because it’s in the mind and heart where things stir up.

Think of it this way – two different scenarios

A. You plant a seed in the ground. You realize that you do not want what it produces, so you choose to not water it. End of story.

B. You plant a seed in the ground. You continue to water it and watch it spread, grow and take over your garden. When you planted the seed you did not realize it was a WEED. This weed now thrives and is able to grow and take over the life of your beautiful garden.

Humans are NOT perfect – we fail each day. You may think – “oh one glance at him won’t hurt me” or “I’ll watch this movie with my girlfriends and nothing bad will come from it” or “Just one more chapter and I’ll quit reading 50 shades of grey” or  “I love the way he makes me laugh – he really gets me” or “This woman encourages and boasts of me – I wish my wife did”

All of these statements are “seeds” from the enemy taking root in your relationship. When you welcome this thought well, it’s downhill from there. No one enjoys pulling out weeds and they will quickly invade your marriage.

Proverbs 4:23 “ABOVE ALL ELSE, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it”

If you need some “spice” in your intimate relationship DO NOT look to the world but search through God’s word with your spouse – trust me, Song of Solomon has it down pat. Perfect model of admiration for one another.

Stand with me and say NO to watching or reading 50 Shades of Grey. Don’t support this filth that is captivating our culture.

I’ll leave you with this thought – “I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine; he browses among the lilies.”  (Song of Solomon 6:3)

xoxo,

Jess Fox

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Be Curious.

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Is it possible that the modern Christian has put “parameters and limits” to our Creator? I mean we all dress up, get our nice warm cup of joe, put on our happy faces (as we pull into the church parking lot because nothing went right that morning) , attend service, worship, tithe and go home. I am a strong believer of attending and being connected to the body of Christ (definitely not bashing the church) but – why are we so close-minded? Do we have a “surface relationship” or an “intimate relationship?”

When I fully understand something, I tend to get bored with it. It just becomes apart of my routine – becoming thoughtless or second nature. If salvation is the only thing we seek to learn about our Father, we will get bored – not that salvation is boring at ALL but it’s the first step. God has called us yes, to first MEET Him, ACCEPT Him and then KNOW Him. You can a l w a y s learn something new about someone, always.

When I say “be curious” I don’t mean questioning God’s Word because what’s written,stands. Be curious about your Creator, what He likes and what he doesn’t. You wouldn’t buy your husband a Duke jersey if he’s a Tarheel fan (that would be a nightmare in my case) It’s a relationship, not a list of do’s and don’ts. We all know a “that Christian” who preaches all the things you “can’t do” but why not be curious about the things you “can do?” Yes I believe the entire Word of God should be preached and that there are things you shouldn’t participate in but to me it sounds like a shallow relationship, focusing on don’ts.

Let’s play this scenario out into a marriage – it would be like constantly telling your spouse, you can’t look at that woman, you can’t have thoughts about another man, you can’t sleep around, you can’t have a hobby – you don’t have time, you can’t be alone with another woman, you can’t have coffee with another man, you can’t, you can’t…. boundaries should be set (according to God’s word) and reviewed BUT how shallow would this relationship be? It’s merely a list of “don’ts.” There’s no intimacy. There are no ebbs and flow. There’s no room for “love or trust” because you feel as if you’re walking on eggshells waiting to mess up. It’s bound by force, rules and regulations. Our God is a God of FREEDOM and LOVE.

1 Corinthians 13 The Message

If I speak with human eloquence and angelic ecstasy but don’t love, I’m nothing but the creaking of a rusty gate.

If I speak God’s Word with power, revealing all his mysteries and making everything plain as day, and if I have faith that says to a mountain, “Jump,” and it jumps, but I don’t love, I’m nothing.

3-7 If I give everything I own to the poor and even go to the stake to be burned as a martyr, but I don’t love, I’ve gotten nowhere. So, no matter what I say, what I believe, and what I do, I’m bankrupt without love.

Love never gives up.

Love cares more for others than for self.

Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have.

Love doesn’t strut,

Doesn’t have a swelled head,

Doesn’t force itself on others,

Isn’t always “me first,”

Doesn’t fly off the handle,

Doesn’t keep score of the sins of others,

Doesn’t revel when others grovel,

Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth,

Puts up with anything,

Trusts God always,

Always looks for the best,

Never looks back,

But keeps going to the end.

8-10 Love never dies. Inspired speech will be over some day; praying in tongues will end; understanding will reach its limit. We know only a portion of the truth, and what we say about God is always incomplete. But when the Complete arrives, our incompletes will be canceled.

11 When I was an infant at my mother’s breast, I gurgled and cooed like any infant. When I grew up, I left those infant ways for good.

12 We don’t yet see things clearly. We’re squinting in a fog, peering through a mist. But it won’t be long before the weather clears and the sun shines bright! We’ll see it all then, see it all as clearly as God sees us, knowing him directly just as he knows us!

13 But for right now, until that completeness, we have three things to do to lead us toward that consummation: Trust steadily in God, hope unswervingly, love extravagantly. And the best of the three is love.

God desires us to love and walk in freedom. 1 Corinthian’s makes it clear that we are to love and to put away “childish thinking” – which to me is do’s and don’ts.

We should strive to be relational and have conversation with our Creator. Think of it this way, toddlers don’t sit still long. Yes, they can engage in conversation but it’s usually pretty direct and predictable. Now fast-forward twenty years and you can sit and focus for a much longer period of time. Not only that but you can enter deep conversation and even tap into emotions (multiple ones) We should never feel as if we aren’t “good enough” to go deeper with our Father. He DESIRES us to be holy as He is holy. (1 Peter 1:16 for it is written: “Be holy, because I am holy.”)

Ask God questions. Ask Him to show you how to deepen your relationship with Him (moving forward from infancy in Christianity – pursuing holiness – life and what to do after salvation, it doesn’t just stop there. We never reach a “final destination” here on Earth.

Father, thank You for salvation. Thank You for giving the BEST gift ever given. I pray You will help me to open my mind to walk deeper with You. I pray You will help me to not have a “surface” relationship but to have an “intimate” relationship. I want to KNOW you. I desire to live a deeper life of holiness. No one knows the answer to everything You do or have done – God help me to stay curious, desiring to know and learn more and more. Help me not to have a spirit of contentedness but stretch my knowledge and deepen my walk with You. Thank You God for the freedom that comes in my walk with You. Amen.

xoxo,

Jess Fox

Eternal

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The Webster’s dictionary describes “Gripe” as – “to complain with grumbling”.

God words are defined to me as; positivity, truth, uplifting, encouraging, non-judgmental, promising.

Gripe=death, God=life. (Proverbs 18:21 The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.) 

The average lifespan for a woman is 81 years and for a man is 76 (give or take a couple of years depending on your source.) Mind-blowing. When you break it down and really look at the time you have here, it’s just a blink compared to Eternity. How are YOUR words describing you? I feel like the  words you speak are direct reflections of your character. Scary huh?  (Luke 6:45  A good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and an evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of.)

Social Media. What a great way to keep in touch with friends and family to share events taking place in your life. Over time I think it’s become “rant media”. How you don’t like so and so, how the government is wrong, how you are right, how you hate rain, how the Sun is too hot, how you wish this and that. WHOA. I feel like God is saying enough is enough. Followers of Christ and even believers in leadership get sucked into this trap. Take a look at your Facebook page. Is your feed full of griping? Is it full of complaint with no answer? Is it full of “non eternal” matters? (I’m speaking to myself as well)  Has your heart become focused on worldly issues instead “Eternal issues”?

Take a look at the conversations you participate in. Are they used to build up or tear down someone. Are they pointing others to Christ or the world? I believe more than ever that God is saying, Wake up sons and daughters. Your words are SO powerful – It’s time you use them to glorify ME and not things of the world.

What if we directed all the energy we put in making a post or conversation that is negative and made it about God or something positive? What if all the time we spend ranting we did what we are supposed to be doing? Instead of hammering an issue we simply can’t control, talk to God about it – He is the Ruler.

What you are doing with the 81 years (average) that God is giving you “Earth time”? Are you using this time to gripe and complain distracting others from “The Source”? The ONLY mission and purpose on the Earth is to lead others to HIM with love. Are your words pointing others to Him? If a lost person was speaking to you would they see the Light?

Do everything without complaining and arguing Philippians 2:14

My challenge to you today is to use “God Words” and not “Gripe Words”. In the end, you will stand face to face with your Creator and He will hold you accountable to what you did on Earth. Do you want Him to say job well done or what were you thinking? We represent our Father here on Earth. What a privilege that is! Let’s make sure we are being the positive reflection of Him in all areas of our lives – especially our words. Live for the “Eternal”.

 

xoxo,

Jess Fox

“I’ll Always be Your Belle”

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Once upon a time ago there was a blonde, curly hair, blue-eyed little girl who had the most amazing man in the whole wide world in her life. The man was like no other she had ever met. He had blue eyes, dark hair, extremely sweet & charming. This man always knew how to put a smile on her face. One evening the little girl ran to her room to get dressed up in a beautiful gown. Once she was ready her prince awaited her in the living room magical ballroom ready for a dance. The little girl happily took the man’s hand and he began to twirl her around & around while she stood on his feet. They danced the evening away to “Beauty & the Beast”. As time went on the relationship changed between the little girl and the man-but for the better. They grew closer & closer together. This man believed her. He told her she could do anything she set her mind to & always encouraged her to let God direct her path. This little girl knew she was loved & that she could always talk to this man. He took her on dates frequently…shopping, dinner, movies… One summer he took her on a beach trip like she had never been on before. They stayed in an immaculate beach house mansion that had a winding staircase. He had planned such a perfect trip for his little princess. He had days full of fun & sun planned, while the evenings were full of surprising events. One evening he took the girl on a shopping trip like one she had never been on before. He bought her many new outfits a whole new wardrobe. After the spree he took her to a classy restaurant for a candlelit steak dinner. At first they shared laughs and giggles of their days events but he took a change of tone in the conversation. He told the little girl she was so valuable and a princess that deserved the very best. He told her any man that she ended up with better treat her the way he did or better (don’t know how it could be better) but nothing less. He said any man would be blessed to have this little girl and that he prays one day she would meet someone who valued her the way he did & would love her the way he loved her.

One day the girl was finishing getting ready for her senior prom and was so excited about her date. She was sure this was a man who would love her the way her prince always had. As they danced the night away she realised so many characteristics in him that were familiar to her. He was dark-haired, polite, handsome & very charming. He respected, surprised & spoiled her. The girl began to explain to “the man” how she felt sure he was the one for her. She said he respected her and treated her like a princess.

One day this boy went to the man and asked for the girl’s hand in marriage. Of course the man was protective of this little girl but knew they were meant to be. Not long after that you could hear wedding bells ringing. This couple with much love, support & prayers decided to get married. A true love bound together by God.They had the most perfect dream wedding-it was everything the little girl ever dreamed of. After they said “I-do” & made their commitments to each other they had a romantic reception. The venue was beautiful-dim lights, white table cloths, fresh flowers, lovely music & of course a dance floor.

As everyone directed their attention to the dance floor a song you usually wouldn’t hear at a wedding reception came on…

  ♫Tale as old as time

True as it can be

Barely even friends

Then somebody bends

Unexpectedly

 Just a little change
 
 Small to say the least
 
Both a little scared
 
Neither one prepared
 
Beauty & the Beast ♫
 
 

As the man & little girl twirled around holding each other close they closed their eyes & flashed back to earlier days to a little blonde hair, blue-eyed girl dancing on the feet of her prince in their magical ballroom. That little girl was me & the prince was my Daddy.

Daddy, I love you and appreciate you always believing in me for who I was & am today. You have always been there for me. I love how close we are and how much closer we are growing together. I always look forward to our phone date every morning and to our daddy/daughter adventures. I wouldn’t be the confident young woman I am today if you had not always shared your love. I love you and I’ll always be your “Belle” 🙂

xoxo,

Jess