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Love in a lust world

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*** This may make you feel awkward or even make you blush – but it’s the Truth.

 Song of Solomon (Chapter 7)

HE:

1 How beautiful are your feet in sandals, O noble daughter! Your rounded thighs are like jewels,
the work of a master hand.
2 Your navel is a rounded bowl that never lacks mixed wine. Your belly is a heap of wheat,
encircled with lilies.
3 Your two breasts are like two fawns, twins of a gazelle.
4 Your neck is like an ivory tower. Your eyes are pools in Heshbon, by the gate of Bath-rabbim.
Your nose is like a tower of Lebanon, which looks toward Damascus.
5 Your head crowns you like Carmel, and your flowing locks are like purple; a king is held captive in the tresses.
6 How beautiful and pleasant you are, O loved one, with all your delights![a]
7 Your stature is like a palm tree, and your breasts are like its clusters.
8 I say I will climb the palm tree and lay hold of its fruit. Oh may your breasts be like clusters of the vine, and the scent of your breath like apples,
9 and your mouth[b] like the best wine.
She:

It goes down smoothly for my beloved, gliding over lips and teeth.
10 I am my beloved’s, and his desire is for me.

The Bride Gives Her Love

11 Come, my beloved, let us go out into the fields and lodge in the villages;
12 let us go out early to the vineyards and see whether the vines have budded, whether the grape blossoms have opened and the pomegranates are in bloom. There I will give you my love.
13 The mandrakes give forth fragrance, and beside our doors are all choice fruits, new as well as old, which I have laid up for you, O my beloved.

Ok, who after reading this wants to go grab your husband/wife and give them a big kiss?? If you’re not married it makes you desire to find someone who cherishes his wife this much. This is straight out of God’s word! These naughty little youngin’s with their metaphors. As I read this scripture I could feel the desire to be with one another so strongly – Encouraging intimacy between a groom and his bride – inspiration.

It’s b e a u t i f u l.                                     It’s h o l y.                                                           It’s p u r e.

The husband isn’t commanding his wife to be a “slave” to him but his heart and mind is full of desire for his bride.

The two became ONE.

It breaks my heart to think that innocent girls/women are being made sex slaves (sex trafficking) but our society would rather entertain a provocative, pornographic book and movie than contribute to HELP these lives (or at least not contribute to the movie/book 50 Shades of Grey – which is indeed making a woman a slave to her master).

My newsfeed has been full of justifications. Some of the comments I’ve read – “This will help my relationship because it will spark a fire in our intimacy” , “It’s not really a sin to watch this movie” or “Christian’s are so uptight about harmless movies” These are LIES – from the enemy.

Philippians 4:8

Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things.

God created sex. He wants it to be spicy, interesting, fun and PURE. When you invite such filth to come before your eyes, it’s no longer your spouse arousing you but the “thought” of another man or woman’s relations and this is known as ADULTERY. It’s in the Bible…

Matthew 5:27, 28 “You have heard that it was said, ‘Do not commit adultery.’ But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

Exodus 20:17 “you shall not covet (lust) your neighbor’s wife,”

So often it’s made to sound as if men are the only ones who struggle with lust. Yes, I feel like the enemy has a stronghold on men with the desires of flesh – literally. BUT women are NOT perfect and usually enjoy fanacizing or reading books or watching movies on other people’s relationship finding themselves -craving “that type of love” Comparing these two incidents – they are identical because they BOTH lead to destruction. They BOTH lead to a wandering mind. They BOTH lead to unfaithfulness because it’s in the mind and heart where things stir up.

Think of it this way – two different scenarios

A. You plant a seed in the ground. You realize that you do not want what it produces, so you choose to not water it. End of story.

B. You plant a seed in the ground. You continue to water it and watch it spread, grow and take over your garden. When you planted the seed you did not realize it was a WEED. This weed now thrives and is able to grow and take over the life of your beautiful garden.

Humans are NOT perfect – we fail each day. You may think – “oh one glance at him won’t hurt me” or “I’ll watch this movie with my girlfriends and nothing bad will come from it” or “Just one more chapter and I’ll quit reading 50 shades of grey” or  “I love the way he makes me laugh – he really gets me” or “This woman encourages and boasts of me – I wish my wife did”

All of these statements are “seeds” from the enemy taking root in your relationship. When you welcome this thought well, it’s downhill from there. No one enjoys pulling out weeds and they will quickly invade your marriage.

Proverbs 4:23 “ABOVE ALL ELSE, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it”

If you need some “spice” in your intimate relationship DO NOT look to the world but search through God’s word with your spouse – trust me, Song of Solomon has it down pat. Perfect model of admiration for one another.

Stand with me and say NO to watching or reading 50 Shades of Grey. Don’t support this filth that is captivating our culture.

I’ll leave you with this thought – “I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine; he browses among the lilies.”  (Song of Solomon 6:3)

xoxo,

Jess Fox

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Be Curious.

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Is it possible that the modern Christian has put “parameters and limits” to our Creator? I mean we all dress up, get our nice warm cup of joe, put on our happy faces (as we pull into the church parking lot because nothing went right that morning) , attend service, worship, tithe and go home. I am a strong believer of attending and being connected to the body of Christ (definitely not bashing the church) but – why are we so close-minded? Do we have a “surface relationship” or an “intimate relationship?”

When I fully understand something, I tend to get bored with it. It just becomes apart of my routine – becoming thoughtless or second nature. If salvation is the only thing we seek to learn about our Father, we will get bored – not that salvation is boring at ALL but it’s the first step. God has called us yes, to first MEET Him, ACCEPT Him and then KNOW Him. You can a l w a y s learn something new about someone, always.

When I say “be curious” I don’t mean questioning God’s Word because what’s written,stands. Be curious about your Creator, what He likes and what he doesn’t. You wouldn’t buy your husband a Duke jersey if he’s a Tarheel fan (that would be a nightmare in my case) It’s a relationship, not a list of do’s and don’ts. We all know a “that Christian” who preaches all the things you “can’t do” but why not be curious about the things you “can do?” Yes I believe the entire Word of God should be preached and that there are things you shouldn’t participate in but to me it sounds like a shallow relationship, focusing on don’ts.

Let’s play this scenario out into a marriage – it would be like constantly telling your spouse, you can’t look at that woman, you can’t have thoughts about another man, you can’t sleep around, you can’t have a hobby – you don’t have time, you can’t be alone with another woman, you can’t have coffee with another man, you can’t, you can’t…. boundaries should be set (according to God’s word) and reviewed BUT how shallow would this relationship be? It’s merely a list of “don’ts.” There’s no intimacy. There are no ebbs and flow. There’s no room for “love or trust” because you feel as if you’re walking on eggshells waiting to mess up. It’s bound by force, rules and regulations. Our God is a God of FREEDOM and LOVE.

1 Corinthians 13 The Message

If I speak with human eloquence and angelic ecstasy but don’t love, I’m nothing but the creaking of a rusty gate.

If I speak God’s Word with power, revealing all his mysteries and making everything plain as day, and if I have faith that says to a mountain, “Jump,” and it jumps, but I don’t love, I’m nothing.

3-7 If I give everything I own to the poor and even go to the stake to be burned as a martyr, but I don’t love, I’ve gotten nowhere. So, no matter what I say, what I believe, and what I do, I’m bankrupt without love.

Love never gives up.

Love cares more for others than for self.

Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have.

Love doesn’t strut,

Doesn’t have a swelled head,

Doesn’t force itself on others,

Isn’t always “me first,”

Doesn’t fly off the handle,

Doesn’t keep score of the sins of others,

Doesn’t revel when others grovel,

Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth,

Puts up with anything,

Trusts God always,

Always looks for the best,

Never looks back,

But keeps going to the end.

8-10 Love never dies. Inspired speech will be over some day; praying in tongues will end; understanding will reach its limit. We know only a portion of the truth, and what we say about God is always incomplete. But when the Complete arrives, our incompletes will be canceled.

11 When I was an infant at my mother’s breast, I gurgled and cooed like any infant. When I grew up, I left those infant ways for good.

12 We don’t yet see things clearly. We’re squinting in a fog, peering through a mist. But it won’t be long before the weather clears and the sun shines bright! We’ll see it all then, see it all as clearly as God sees us, knowing him directly just as he knows us!

13 But for right now, until that completeness, we have three things to do to lead us toward that consummation: Trust steadily in God, hope unswervingly, love extravagantly. And the best of the three is love.

God desires us to love and walk in freedom. 1 Corinthian’s makes it clear that we are to love and to put away “childish thinking” – which to me is do’s and don’ts.

We should strive to be relational and have conversation with our Creator. Think of it this way, toddlers don’t sit still long. Yes, they can engage in conversation but it’s usually pretty direct and predictable. Now fast-forward twenty years and you can sit and focus for a much longer period of time. Not only that but you can enter deep conversation and even tap into emotions (multiple ones) We should never feel as if we aren’t “good enough” to go deeper with our Father. He DESIRES us to be holy as He is holy. (1 Peter 1:16 for it is written: “Be holy, because I am holy.”)

Ask God questions. Ask Him to show you how to deepen your relationship with Him (moving forward from infancy in Christianity – pursuing holiness – life and what to do after salvation, it doesn’t just stop there. We never reach a “final destination” here on Earth.

Father, thank You for salvation. Thank You for giving the BEST gift ever given. I pray You will help me to open my mind to walk deeper with You. I pray You will help me to not have a “surface” relationship but to have an “intimate” relationship. I want to KNOW you. I desire to live a deeper life of holiness. No one knows the answer to everything You do or have done – God help me to stay curious, desiring to know and learn more and more. Help me not to have a spirit of contentedness but stretch my knowledge and deepen my walk with You. Thank You God for the freedom that comes in my walk with You. Amen.

xoxo,

Jess Fox

Fight with Peace

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Ok so you’ve read the title and it seems bizzare….when we promote peace we usually don’t fight do we??!?!

I’m going to be open and honest in this post…I feel like someone out there needs to hear this.

Before having Gabriel I rarely battled with a yucky 5 letter word…WORRY. I was carefree and didn’t really have a worry in the world. See, I grew up in a wonderful Christian home and I don’t recall having to “fight” many battles at all…I had a pretty awesome childhood and not “sheltered” from reality but not going through any major trials of my own. I saw my dad go through many health trials but I hadn’t faced anything “super mega” challenging in my own life…well except if my tan wasn’t dark enough or my hair wasn’t life enough 🙂 I had not honestly seen the “real world” until moving out, getting married and moving away from my sweet little hometown. When you do those three things…you really grow up…fast. (Especially once having children). When my precious Gabriel was born, it’s like I birthed something else into my life…WORRY! At first, it was just “normal” stuff like checking on him a billion times in the middle of the night to make sure he was breathing (because he was a preemie he didn’t wake up screaming to nurse like Natalie does). I do know now with having two children that your basic “motherhood worries” are normal and ease up some after you enter about month 3 or so of babies life…but continue all throughout their lives with different seasons and new worries. (they don’t have to control you though) But…mine wasn’t easing up in my life. It actually grew and grew and grew into fear. I began to think up scenarios of things that “could happen” but most likely never ever would. I became so full of fear I felt paralyzed. I felt stuck. I felt alone. I have been a Christian for most of my life and had never experienced anything like this. I had NO clue you could worry over someone so tiny and small so much. The responsiblity of being a mother is tremendous because all of a sudden you are responsible for someone else’s precious life. My husband was so sweet and supportive during this trial…always praying and encouraging me.(Even though I was probably driving him crazy…I was driving myself crazy haha) I spoke with my Dad multiple times as well and he told me I’m going to have to overcome this battle with the PEACE of God.  It’s that very statement that got me thinking…you overcome trials and battles by fighting back with the peace of God. I began fighting each thought and scenario.  2 Corinthians 10:5 “Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ”

This verse became my constant meditation. I had it written all over the house. I had it pop up as a reminder on my cell phone, I memorized it, I spoke it all throughout the day. See the enemy LOVES to get into your mind and fill it with junk. It becomes a battle…a constant one. A reoccurring one. I also began reading “Battlefield of the Mind” by Joyce Meyers…which is an incredible book for anyone to read. It helps you see that God is on our side and He is fighting for us all along…we just have to SUBMIT our minds and OPEN them to allow him to.

God doesn’t desire us to worry…actually fear=doubt. And this is the lesson that God taught me in all of this. I let the enemy STEAL my joy of a having my sweet Gabriel. I had LET FEAR IN. I had allowed my thoughts to run wild and far away from God’s word. I wasn’t keeping them in order or submitting them to Him. I was taking things into my own hands…and well we see where that got me..on my knees! See I am (with the Holy Spirit) the MASTER of my mind. I can either think on things of this world (doubt, fear, insecurities…) or I can think on things ABOVE (joy, peace, love, kindness, JESUS). Colossians 3:2 Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things. The awesome thing about our Father is that HE is real. He doesn’t beat around the bush…He says it like it is…and I adore that! He desires us to be the same way with Him. He already knows the thoughts we are having…so speak them to Him and say something like this “Father, I don’t have time to think about this mess…I’m so fed up with the constant chain of thoughts…I’m tired of my life being ran by the what-if’s. I’m just honestly fed up with my mind..please Father take these thoughts away.” And you know what??? The thoughts don’t disappear like you’ve taken a “magic pill”. They are STILL there. It’s kind of like a war. Just because a solider is standing there…doesn’t make the enemy disappear….the soilder has to FIGHT him. Speaking your thoughts to God is step one of the battle. You are now allowing and asking God to fight them for you. Step two is consistently renewing your mind! It’s a multiple time a day event for me. It can be as simple as saying “God I give my thoughts to you…help me to honor you with each thought” A simple way that I began “retraining” my mind was speaking little things like this throughout the day… “Father I love you.” “Jesus give me peace” “Father I’m so thankful for You” “Father You are holy” “Jesus I know you are the beginning and the end” “God I know that no weapon formed against me shall prosper”…I would mix different thoughts of thankfulness and praise…and as I began thinking on those things, I didn’t have time to meditate on silly unrealistic worries. As I meditated on Christ…the worries started melting away. See, the battle was being won! (In my illustration of the war….the soilder was getting rid of the enemy one by one by fighting them) The victory was here. I with Christ on my side had WON my mind…my battle. We FOUGHT WITH PEACE..together!

My challenge for you today is to first, open your lives to allow our Father to fight the battle with and for you. Secondly, renew your mind daily! Take every thought captive and if it doesn’t line up with the Word of God…tell it to get OUT. I still every single day (sometimes multiple times) give my mind to Christ…because worry is a dirty little thing that tries to creep in over and over again. But now that I’ve won a big battle with Christ…the little “fusses” are much easier to overcome. I’ll leave you with this verse.

Philippians 4:6-7 Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; 7 and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.

xoxo,

Jess

Fear Not

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Overcoming fears and insecurities seem like a constant battle with the flesh. There are so many things we can be fearful of. Circumstances vary for each individual- fear of death, fear of public speaking, fear of heights, fear of not being accepted, fear of rejection, fears of about anything you can imagine. The enemy LOVES to distract us with fear, insecurity and doubt. (John 10:10 The thief comes only to steal, kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.) The enemy is never looking out for our best interest…only God because God is love. (1 John 4:18 KJV There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love.)

In July of 2010 my husband & I found out that we were expecting our first child. This was definitely a surprise but we were thrilled! We spent several weeks in excitement sharing the news and trying to come up with names for this child. A few weeks later something devastating happened…I lost this beautiful baby. At the time I became angry and unsure of why this circumstance happened. I felt robbed and an experienced emptiness that I could not bare. I mourned for days that turned into weeks and weeks that turned into months. I kept a lot of things hidden to myself & on the outside seemed all put together. I tried to let the light (God) mend and heal my wounds but could not overcome the situation that had happened to me. (John 1:5 The light shines in the darkness, but the darkness has not understood it.)

In March of 2011 I found out that I was pregnant again! Instead of feelings of excitement & joy…I was filled with fear & doubt. Because of my previous experience I was so afraid! We delayed in sharing the news we were pregnant because I was so fearful. A man at our church prophesied that 2 sons & a daughter were going to be born in our church.(This was before we had told anyone) This brought some peace to my mind. I experienced some bleeding a few weeks after that & was so scared I was losing the baby. A man came to me & said, “Jessica, I have two words for you… Fear Not”. This was so comforting to hear–I knew it was God! My husband & I had been praying for a strong, meaningful name for our baby (we just knew we were having a boy). My husband came to me one evening & said, “I know what we are supposed to name our child–Gabriel”. Me being pregnant & contrary at the time instantly said, “No, I don’t care for that” rejecting the name. I kept having the words “Fear Not” spoken over me throughout the pregnancy & was praying about a name for our son. I was reading the bible in Luke one evening & came across verse where Gabriel says to Mary, “Fear not”. When I read that verse a peace came over me…not only knowing we had finally chosen a name for our son but that everything was going to be ok. (John 14:27 Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.)

November 27, 2011 our strong warrior messenger of God, Gabriel Hayden Fox was born! He was born healthy & perfect!

Through my miscarriage followed by a healthy pregnancy, God has used me to help other women through similar circumstances. At the time I was confused & fearful but He always has a way of bringing the good out of bad situations. He also taught me to crucify my fears and trust in Him.

I challenge each of you to give your fears, insecurities & doubts to God. This will be a daily process! Wake up each morning & say God, I am Yours & You are Love & Love casts out our Fears! They are so distracting to the point you could miss out on your blessings and destiny. I could have stayed down & depressed about my loss but instead (eventually) gave it to God & allowed Him to mend me & use me to minister to others. It’s not always going to be easy letting go but so worth it! Let go & let God.

xoxo,

Jess